“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear,” C.S. Lewis
Author C.S. Lewis wrote “A Grief Observed,” a personal look at grief after his wife passed away from cancer just a few years after they were married. The account is raw, real and honest and a must read. Check out the book here.
It always surprises me how little people want to know about grief and the emotions that losing a loved one can bring months and years after a passing. But it shouldn’t surprise me. In our world, few want to think about what it will be like supporting a mother, father or spouse on their end-of-life journey and no one wants to think about after. But my background is hospice care and as I’ve supported families through the sad yet somehow beautiful journey that it can be at the end of life, I feel the need to share.
As C.S. Lewis writes, grief can make you question your love and faith—everything that you know to be true. And yet I’ve seen that if you can come through the other side, you’ll come through stronger. But it’s not so easy to do alone.
Hospice care helps families work through the emotions involved when a loved one passes. It’s one of the great benefits of working with medical professionals who specialize in end-of-life care. Without hospice, a death happens and that’s it—little to no support afterwards from the medical community.
But with hospice, families are cared for as well as patients, even after a loved one passes. Throughout the process, medical professionals act as listening ears and supportive shoulders. They stay with families and offer a hand while wives, children and grandchildren share stories of love and loss.
At Tabitha Hospice, we provide support to families for a full 18-months after a passing. Per regulations, hospice providers must provide at least 12-months of support after a death, but we feel that more time is needed. Throughout the care and 18-month period, we offer grief groups, the opportunity to talk with our professionals our spiritual guides, words of support, and even counseling and grief referrals.
Grief can be a fearful experience and should never be faced alone. The compassion of hospice caregivers can provide that helping hand needed to face the next morning.