How Can I Set Healthy Boundaries?
Happy and healthy relationships take some time, trust and a little bit of luck? Not quite. One way you can clearly advocate for your well-being is by setting boundaries with those around you. From work to family and friends, having clarity in your relationships is key. Thankfully, there are some basics to setting healthy boundaries:
Examine facets and relationships in your life that need to be redefined. Lifestyles and relationships are constantly evolving and changing. Naturally, these patterns reflect your needs. Narrowing down what “is: and “isn’t” working begins the internal conversation toward positive change.
Before making strides to change, accept that some things are sadly just out of our control. This will prevent unrealistic boundaries, and boost focus on areas of improvement. Feel seen in these discomforts and instead ask, how can I express personal kindness in this?
Boundaries are, at their roots, cause and effect relationships. Your mentality and actions are flipping the previous script and setting new rules. Therefore, it is important to define exactly what is “wrong,” and, moving forward, how you will enact a constructive change.
Take that definition and condense it for others. Voicing your boundaries could be as simple as saying, “no, thanks,” or “I don’t agree.” Everyone has the right to define what they do and think; others often don’t need additional information.
Spotlight the sense of self. Boundaries are personal; you can’t define them for others or control their actions to chase your needs. When communicating boundaries to others, use “I” phrases such as, “I need some time to clear my head.” Shift frustration if others aren’t respecting boundaries, circle back to acceptance and redefine your future actions.
Setting boundaries can be intimidating, but cultivate a safe space for positive growth in self and relationships. At the very least, gratifying the importance of your happiness boosts self-esteem. For more information on setting boundaries, contact a local mental health professional.
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